They say the only thing constant is change. We believe them.
I’m dividing change into 2 buckets. One bucket is that change happens. You get laid off. Someone very close dies unexpectedly or moves away. Basically, this first bucket is an external event that changes the trajectory of your life.
The 2nd bucket is self ‘inflicted’. You decide it’s time to: get out of -or into- a relationship, get a different job, change careers, move across the country. Sell everything and travel while living in a VW Microbus.
How well do you or do you not deal with change? Do you find it exciting or nerve-racking? Is it easy for you or would you rather get a root canal?
I was talking with a friend the other day who absolutely loves it. Lives for it. She says, if she’s not changing, she’s not living. On the other hand, I know people who are still living in the town they grew up in. Some in the very same house, working the same job, driving the same car…
If or when you do make a change, what is your direction? Do you generally move towards where you want to be or are you trying to move away from where you are, thinking “anything but this!!”
Does that make sense? Running away from something is a different energy vs moving toward something. I like the energy of moving towards something. It is a positive, in charge, at-cause kind of energy. This is called anabolic energy. It is a creative, building up, constructive kind of energy. The opposite side of this is a destructive tearing down energy known as catabolic. These are different in the way they present, the way they feel, and in the way they act on your body, most specifically your endocrine system.
Change is inevitable. Even our bodies change completely every 7 years. It is going to happen. How we react to change is our choice.
I’m rounding third towards a big change in my life. And I know I’m moving towards it. I’m selling my business and I’m moving to coaching full time. Even though I’ve been building up to this for a couple of years, and I’m very excited about this, I admit to it being a little anxious, but even through that lens, I’m certain that it is the right thing to do, for me. Besides, if I wasn’t a little nervous, I wouldn’t be human. I’m definitely human. Ask my kids. They’ll tell you.
When we go through any kind of change, we become more closely aligned with who we truly are and who we truly can be. It may feel insignificant at the time, but if you look back, every change has all contributed to who you are at this moment in time. And it enhances what you have to offer others. How many times have you heard, I wouldn’t wish what I’ve been through on anybody, but I’d wish what I learned from it on everyone.
Change has formed you into the person you are today. And it’s probably nothing compared to the person you will be tomorrow.
Just Sayin’