Month: September 2021

I was wondering what our life on earth must look like from the sky? I expect it looks like a mishigas of movement, with some semblance of chaotic order, like ants marching hither and yon. Where do we fit in this picture? With all this activity of life, do you ever feel lost?  And maybe not really lost, but wondering what is my place in all of this? Like what am I doing? Or maybe, what is mine to do? Do you feel like you are in control or just going with the flow? 

You know that you have a lot to say about the direction of your own life. Right? 

The very first thing you were ever involved in ended up as a very successful and fairly substantial step towards a bigger expression of you. You fought your way to the front of billions of other sperm cells and got yourself born. That’s a pretty significant accomplishment right out of the gate, don’t cha think? 

Something inside of you, something that is so deep inside of you that you’re probably not even consciously aware of it, really wanted to be here. And that desire, that drive, that’s what made it happen. That part of you is still very much alive.

A guy I know,  Randy Gage, an internationally acclaimed inspirational author, and speaker says “If your dream is big enough and worthy enough, you will usually find a way to make it come true.” Then he goes on to say..  “But not all dreams are meant to come true.  Some exist simply to challenge you into becoming a higher version of yourself.”  Hmmm. Interesting, I say.

Is there something in the Randy’s statement that stirs up that deep fiery energy inside of you that lets you know that you can still create something big for yourself?

The being born example illustrates that if you are very intentional, you can make anything happen.  Sometimes I wonder what happened to us -me included- that we let life happen to us instead of us taking the lead. It is our life and when we make a true decision to move forward, it’s pretty cool how often we actually succeed!

Remember, we got ourselves born.
After that, life should be easy. 

Just sayin’

Last week I took a little break. I drove up the coast road to Big Sur, generally considered one of the most beautiful stretches of road on earth. And in case you’re wondering, I agree.  It is magnificent in so many ways.  

I went on this outing to connect or if you will, to reconnect, to nature and to me. Last week we talked about human connection and highlighted relational, social, and emotional connections. We gave a passing wink and a nod to our relationship to ourselves.  I believe this connection, this personal, intimate experience to ourselves is of utmost importance to our mental, physical, psychological and spiritual health.

So, practicing what I preach, I spent some time with me. I did go alone, and even though I wasn’t gone too long, it was extremely rejuvenating. I hiked, saw waterfalls, meditated on beautiful beaches, took lots of pictures, met some locals. I slept in my car – while parked on the beach – and one night I slept in a redwood grove. 

I’ve heard that we take better care of our cars than our bodies. Why is that? I’ve lost count of how many cars I’ve had. I know I have one body! It carries around my one soul. Why wouldn’t I do the best I can to care for my one body, for the health of my mind to support the expansiveness of my soul? I believe I would want to keep myself in a condition that allows me the best experience of my life on this planet.

It’s very important to take care of you! What does that look like? Is it as simple as you taking you out for dinner? Maybe buying yourself something that you don’t really need, but that you really want? Could it be a mini-vacation with yourself, just to get away for a couple of days and recharge?

You know yourself better than anyone else, so you get to decide how to do this, but I’m strongly suggesting, that however you do it, take time for you. You are the only you you’ve got!  Take Good Care of You!

Just sayin’

What is your life vision? Do you have a life vision? I didn’t really have one for a while and I just flowed through life participating in and accepting whatever presented itself. Not a bad life, but unsatisfying. And I wasn’t really in control of my path. 

Who out there is pretty good at visualizing how you want your lives to look? You can see the house, the car, the relationship, the work, But are you accepting those things into your lives? Might there be a sort of disconnect between what you see in your dreams and the life you’re actually living? 

Did you ever try to imagine what having these things feels like? The Universe, the Law of Attraction, or the ‘whatever you want to call it’, really responds to the emotional energy you put out in order to manifest your vision. What does that mean, exactly? 

Think of a time when you experienced some kind of emotional upset and then you started not feeling well. That’s an example of a thought, in this case, an emotion, creating a thing, the physical discomfort.  See how that works?

How would you like to set yourself up for your dream life? Here are four things to keep in mind when creating your experience. 

First, one of the most important things is to be very clear on what you want. Make sure you focus on what you DO what, not what you DON’T want. For instance, “I do want a job that challenges me” as opposed to “I don’t want to work at a job that is boring” 

Be grateful, both for what you have experienced and for what you now have. For what you’ve experienced because it got you to where you are now. And for what you have, because gratitude positively enhances the quality of the signal you’re sending into the quantum field. Conversely, doubt and negativity diminish the quality of the signal you’re sending. Whether you truly understand this concept or not, does it at least make sense? I get that it may sound a bit out there, but science keeps proving this over and over again. 

Trust the process. When you plant your crops, ok, maybe you’re just planting a few vegetables, you don’t keep pulling them up to see if they are growing, right? Trust that you’ve planted this seed and it will be ready for you to harvest when it’s ready. I experienced this with the seed I planted almost 3 years ago with regards to selling my business. If that sale had happened immediately, it wouldn’t have been right. I wasn’t really ready for it. Over time, -the plant growing- I found my new business, the buyers were ready, and everything was in place. It worked out perfectly. 

The last very important thing is to detach from the outcome. Sounds counterintuitive, I know.   Sometimes the end result looks a little different than our original vision. Most of the time it turns out better. This goes hand in hand with trusting the process. 

Bottom line, What you want wants you. And when you are ready, it will appear. Simple, right? Easy, not so much, but that’s what makes the journey so interesting and fun. Keep at it. It will happen for you. 

Just sayin’

Connection!  You know it. You’ve felt it! You meet someone and it’s palpable. That feeling of connection. It’s a beautiful thing, yes? Have you ever wondered what causes that?  Do we need connection?

Human connection – the exchange of positive energy between people. It can be one of the most rewarding experiences in life.  Notice I said positive energy. It makes sense that negative energy would repel, causing separation.  

How are all connections? I’m not suggesting you take a look at your relationship to see if it’s working, though, checking in from time to time is always a good idea. I’m thinking more about your connection with yourself. Are you good with you? 

How much do you really like you? What do you like about yourself? How about making a list of what you like about yourself. Do you treat yourself well? How well do you spend time alone?  Do you sometimes prefer yourself over anyone else? These are questions people generally don’t ask themselves, but, it’s a good thing to check into from time to time. 

If you’re not in a relationship, would getting into one make you feel whole? If you’re in one, do you feel whole?  I’m thinking of that poster that says “I like who I am when we’re together’.  Does that mean that you make me a better person? And if being with you makes me a better person, how come I can’t be that person without you? Or does it mean that when we are together I feel like I can be completely me?  Interesting that it can mean two different things.  How do you see it? Is there another way to see this I might have missed?  Damn, Dave, way too many questions!

An emotional connection is a bond that holds partners together. It is one of the most important strengths for couples to have. Without a strong emotional connection, relationships can easily drift apart. Then couples could turn to counseling. But at least they’re aware of it because they checked in. 

Social connection is now understood as a core human need, and the desire to connect is fundamental. We’re born with it. It is crucial to our development and without it, all social animals, and we are that, experience distress and other potential negative repercussions.

I bet being kinder to others would enhance social connections. Even those others we aren’t really connected to. Because, as you may know, at some level we are all connected.  

We don’t know what others are going thru. That guy that just cut you off in traffic, maybe on his way to the hospital for a family emergency. The cashier who is less than friendly may have just had her car repossessed.  That little kid who is acting up? He may have just lost his mom and doesn’t know how to process it. Allowing ourselves to feel a little compassion for another, or just accepting what is at that moment, is just one way of connecting. It is simply being open to a little understanding. Do it just because. 

When we realize we’re being hard on ourselves, turn some of that compassion inward. That’s a powerful personal connection.