Month: March 2021

Awareness… the state of being conscious. Conscious of what? Conscious of what we’re thinking, feeling, how we react or respond. Being aware of how we talk to ourselves, how we show up in the world. Awareness of options, of our why.

Conscious awareness is a way of being in the world on purpose. It’s a good thing to pay closer attention to our lives. We don’t know what we don’t know. You may have heard about the fish who turns to his friend and says, ‘what water?’

We all have a filter through which we see the world. Anais Nin says “We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are’.  How aware are you of your filters? 

Imagine, living in conscious awareness of just what is. Plain, simple, facts. No ego, no judgment, no emotion. Truth!  And the acceptance of it!

There is peace in acceptance. It doesn’t mean you have to like what’s going on, but knowing what is allows a conscious decision to be made. And to get to where we want to be, to move into the life we want to live, we first have to know where we are. Then we can figure out how to get there.

In the meantime, focus on what you’re doing. Be aware of what’s around you, how you’re acting, and the energy in the room. Then, accept what is. With Awareness and Acceptance, you are at choice, at cause over your life. And That’s a beautiful thing…  

   just sayin’ 

The land begrudgingly wakes up from the long cold snowy winter. Aah yes, I remember it well. Wondering ‘will it ever end?’ And you know, what? It always did. The snow always melted, the temperatures always went up, the flowers always bloomed. Amazing, isn’t it? Where the leaves fell off the trees, allowing those trees to rest, new blooms, every year. It’s the constant rebirth of life. I could go on, but I’m betting you get the picture.

Spring is a beautiful, re-energizing awakening. How might this apply to us? We can create our own spring, whenever and wherever we like. In fact, we often do. When we take on a new project, when we learn a new skill when we make a decision to change something in our lives. That is analogous to being reborn. That is what spring shows us every year.

I’m doing this now, as I look to retire from my old business and start-up my coaching business. I’ve been tending the soil, planting seeds, and trusting in the process. The process that ensures that every single year, spring comes. That every single morning, the light overcomes the darkness. This is the same process that guarantees – that when we properly tend our gardens in which are planted the right seeds, and remember, these seeds represent our dreams and visions, anything really that we are not just lazily day-dreaming about, but actively creating and working toward, this process guarantees that we will get blooms. These plants will grow!   It is the nature of rebirth, the way of spring, the natural order of things. It can’t be any other way.

What seeds have you planted lately? Or, what seeds are you holding onto that are just waiting to be planted? There’s no better time than right now.

     Just sayin’

Right about this time last year, it was decided we had to go into hiding. From what? Something we knew very little about, except that it didn’t seem to be very friendly towards us. So, we did. We were in lockdown, in quarantine. Socially isolated. People got scared. Folks got lonely. Some did get sick. There were losses. Some just felt lost, confused. The world slowed down. The earth did some healing. I imagine many of us also did some healing.  Some learned to cook. Some learned to eat. We’ve pretty much embraced ZoomRooms as the new way to communicate and now zoom is forever a part of our lives.

Folks hunkered down and did personal work. Some realized they’re OK with themselves. Some realized how much basic human interactions are truly missed.  What have you learned about yourself over this last year?

New hobbies were started, old ones were dusted off. I’d love to hear about what you got involved in, what got you excited.

We became closer to family and friends. We learned a lot about ourselves and others… we observed, and experienced, fear, compassion, creativity, love, passion, loss, acceptance, and gratitude.

Now, it looks like restrictions are relaxing. We can go out to eat. There is live music again. People are making travel plans. There are real fans in the stands. I keep hearing about getting back to normal. Why would we want to go back? After all this growing, let’s embrace where we are – here!  Now!  Accept what is.

I’d like to hear some of your observations about how you have changed? Your opinions about how has the world has changed?  Do you feel we are better or worse off than we were a year ago? Remember better or worse is a judgment, right? So where we are, is where we are. Observe without judging. We’ve all grown. And to grow -to expand- is the natural order, the natural movement of the Universe.

One thing I know for sure is that whatever is thrown at us, we are resilient, we are creative. We have spirit!   We are survivors and we are thrivers, and we are better off for it. You know what? We have shown that we can have, do, or be whatever we choose. So remember, whatever you’re faced with, You Got This! 

Just sayin’ 

Judging. From the very beginning of time, and probably before that, people have judged. Why is that?  Let’s start with this definition. Judging is “The act of looking down upon someone; to regard as inferior.”

Judging suggests that there is a right and a wrong. And the very nature of being the judger suggests that you think you are right and somebody else is wrong. I believe a lot of these judgments come from a place of fear which sprout from a place of not understanding.  People are afraid of what they don’t know.  What could make someone so afraid of something they aren’t even involved in that they would react by judging someone else. 

When I touched on this last year, it was about me judging. I noticed that I was doing it. How I felt when I was doing it. What it meant, what I could learn and how I could stop it.  I think I did pretty well, but there is always more to learn.

Well, judging has come up again. But this time from a different angle.
This time, I’m feeling like I’m on the receiving end. Now I have an idea of how the person who feels they are being judged might react.  It’s not that I’ve personally been attacked, but the negative energy towards the one being judged, in this case, me, makes one feel as if they were being lashed out against. Then comes the feeling of needing to defend something that quite honestly doesn’t need to be defended.

I’ve been working to ignore it, as I know it’s not about me, but it is still sticking in my craw. I understand this comes from a place of caring, backed by a lack of understanding, but it’s judging nonetheless. I’m still curious about why it is happening, and I’m really wondering about the lack of communication around it. A visit is a very simple resolution.  On a side note, isn’t it amazing how many situations could be quickly and easily resolved with even just a little bit of communication?

When you notice yourself as judging, can you identify your truth about this? Remember that we tend to be afraid of what we don’t know. What are you afraid of?  I don’t know the answer to that, of course. It’s your fear, your question and it would be your answer. When you ask yourself the question, it will be interesting to see what comes up. And it might help to ask the question, get an answer, ask it again, get a different answer. Do this 2-3 times to get a deeper answer. You’ll know when you hit the answer that rings your perfect truth.

How nice would it be to go through your days not judging and understanding that if you feel judged, it’s not about you? You are perfectly fine. And so is everyone else.

Just sayin’